Kiarae

    B-day Blues!

    Monday, June 16, 2008, 12:14 PM CST [General]

     

    So, my birthday was Saturday.  Now don't get me wrong, I love my friends, but is it too much to ask for them to say "Happy Birthday".  We (my husband and I) had planned on going up to his families lake house for the weekend with our friends.  But when gas jumped so high we decided to change it to hanging out locally at our friends house (let's call them V and K)  and enjoying thier company and their pool.  We went over last weekend, helped them clean out their pool which looked like a stagnat pond, so that we could all enjoy it.  It took us all weekend.  Then middle of the week, my husband tells me that K has invited one of her old friends to the party.  Ok, great no problem, K has been wanting us all to get together, she is trying to intergrate her old life in houston with her new life here.  Again not a problem.  The problem came when K made the get together all about her.  K didn't invite her old friends so that they could meet me (they had already met my hubby), but so that she could get her tattoo fixed.  At that point I almost said screw it and cancel on them at the last minute.  but that is not me.  So we showed up at their house for what I hoped would be a redeeming moment, but instead the fact that this "party" was supposed to be for my b-day, was completely ignored.  Out of the 12 people there, only one told me happy birthday, V.  When we pulled in the driveway, everyone that was on the porch, which was everyone there, went into the house like they didn't even see us, except V.  When we went in, K never introduced me to her friend, she acted almost like us being there was an inconvience.  Once I started talking to K's friend, I really do like her, we have absolutely nothing in common, but she seems like a really nice person.  I just don't like K when she is around this friend.  K becomes very stuck up and starts talking down to people like they are beneath her.  It is annoying and something I don't deal with very well.  The longer we were there the more depressed and hurt I became, so finally, my hubby realized that something was wrong and asked if i wanted to leave.  I said yes and we said our goodbyes.  So now I am stuck with wondering how much of a friend K really is, or if I am just someone to have around to vent to.  I am also in the mind set of the only way not to be hurt anymore by people that are supposed to be my friends is to just quit caring about everything that means something to me.  I try to care aobut my friends lives, even if I don't understand completely, I still care because they are my friends, but why should I if they don't return the sentment. 

     

    The whole time I have been typing this I have thought how much I sound like a selfish spoiled brat.  A lot of the reason i feel this way is because I normally just ignore how people have hurt me or walked on me, but I just can't do that anymore.  I just don't know how to tell my friend how hurt I am without her either blowing the whole thing off, or telling me that I am being a bitch and to grow up. 

     

    Well, thanks for listening/reading my rant.

     

     

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    I don't think you sound spoiled. Actually if someone acts totally different with another friend I would spend the whole time wondering which one was the real person and which one is the phony person. I mean we all act a little bit differently around different groups but it shouldn't be a complete personality change like that, IMO. I have a neighbor that was the same way. I found out that the sweet person she was when she was around me was the phony personality. Needless to say we're no longer friends. :P I hope it's the other way with your friend.

    I don't have any advice on talking to her about it. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

    Jodi ~ Danu's Vixen
    June 16, 2008
    12:27 PM CST

    Happy Birthday, Sweetheart. May the coming year be filled with all the joy you could wish, and then some! Brightest blessings.

    Rowan
    June 16, 2008
    01:13 PM CST

    You don't have to wonder dear, she's not a friend. Nobody should treat those that which they call a friend in that way... sorry but I'd have to say bye-bye to this girl K. A friend to me isn't a person that's just friendly with you, they are caring, supportive, a good listener, to have good times with and there for you if the need should arise. Sounds like she used you and your hubby to get what she wanted, her pool cleaned, without the regards of this get together was for your birthday, and then totaly ingnoring you.... Sorry but I would say "See ya"...
    Blessings,

    Pathwalker
    June 16, 2008
    01:15 PM CST

    happy birthday

    I agree..some friend..
    My agreement is with the previous posts before mine..I do not think she is much of a friend at all,and nope you do not sound spoiled at all.
    I think that this friend is as you say,just having you as a friend to have a sounding board..
    You can do better,I do not know you but you seem very nice..
    Have a blessed week and happy belated..
    My son's was yesterday he turned 12 ;-)

    nat

    Lunawolfseeker
    June 16, 2008
    01:58 PM CST

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